She walked into the room wearing a long, shimmering silver gown, sexy mules peeking out at the bottom, her onyx colored hair held up by a tortoise shell comb, with ringlets cascading, softly framing her beautiful face.

Candles lit, the atmosphere romantic, her skin glistened like soft velvet: when he saw her, he gasped but for a moment, for she took his breath away.

Walking towards her, love emanating from his sensual dark eyes, he took her hand and twirled her around like a ballerina as they stood facing a long, antique mirrorboth their reflections looking back at themhe marveled at her voluptuousness and told her how sexy and beautiful she was and how he was the happiest man alive since that afternoon, since their elopement.

She did not quite see the same thing. Ignoring her face, the radiance that glow which was captured in the mirror..she could not get past the flesh she saw hanging over the strap of her gown.like oversized buns, soft and mushy. But what she feared most in the instant was him seeing herfully naked for the first time.

While they dated, she hid herself well with lingerie and made sure the lights were always out, she laid a certain way to make her belly flatter, making sure to wake up earlier than he did and put on a robe so he had never truly seen her before this evening.

2 people with 2 very different views. How long before she fills his head with her insecurities and he too, will start to see her differentlynot because he wants to, but he will start to see her as she sees herself.

She has a negative body image, due to low self esteemthey are intertwined

Self esteem is how you feel about yourself, not what others think. Your self esteem is more than likely a result of years of conditioning, insults never forgot how youve compared yourself to others whether in the real world or those figures grazing the fashion pages.

Beauty comes in a multitude of colors, sizes, shapes and ages and is a state of mind. It is what you believe, so before embarking on your next diet let me say this: We need to put our minds on a diet to rid ourselves of the Negative talk and replace it with Positive Talk. To truly believe you are: intelligent, beautiful, sexy, gorgeous, attractive, bodacious and worth living the life you deserve and desire.

The past no longer has any power over you!

A few tips: For all the negative conditioning over the years, go to a relaxed area of your home, relax, light a candle, make an ambiance that fills you with serenity.Take a pen and paper and write all the things that have hurt you, the scenarios, people, insults, turn it into a letter or point form, whatever you want, now the best part  Take what youve written and burn it! Envision that the hurt and pain is burning with those flames, FOREVER! This may take several sessions, but I promise it worksforgiveness is one of the first steps to being an enlightened/voluptuous woman!

Write down 5 things that are positive about what you look like.now write down 5 things that are positive about who you arefocus on those 10 things for the next few weeks, write them down, make it a mantra, repeat it several times a day, post it on your fridge as a reminder.this alone will enable you to begin your journey to a more positive you.

It pains me to hear women say, Ill start dating when. Ill change jobs when. Or my life will be so much better when. When what? You lose weight? You are putting yourself and your life on hold for a number that is going down on a scale? You are giving up your power to a number. If you desire to eat better for health reasons, greatby all means we all want to be healthier and able to enjoy lifehowever, to constantly be putting your life on hold until you become a magic number..is not the way to live, we only this ride around the merry go round called life once so make it a ride that you can enjoy and be proud of!

I have lived 90% of my life as a Rubenesque, voluptuous woman I can say that at the age of 42 I have never felt more beautiful! Why? Because I love who I have become over the years, for I have gained wisdom, experience and maturityand a love for the most important person in my life: myself!

Terri Giosia, motivational speaker, lifestyles-singles coach and writer, whose vision, passion and spirit will captivate and motivate you to be the "best" you can be! An ongoing student of human behavior; previous to finding my niche I was paving the path to this career, which includes over 20 years in training, business development, consulting, and management. Enhance and enrich your life today! Visit: http://www.teralunaenterprises.com

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