There are two types of criticism. One comes from others. This criticism usually comes from our parents or family members. They are sometimes overly critical of us and what we do. Consequently, we grow up wanting and needing the approval of others.

Somewhere through the growing process, we learned to turn the criticism inward, towards ourselves. Our parents may be gone but we are still giving ourselves criticism that our parents used to. This has become so automatic that we dont even realize we are doing it.

In order to change and grow, you need to change and eliminate self-criticism. This is no easy task because this is a habit we have cultivated over a great length of time. You need to stop being critical of yourself and overly harsh on yourself. Have some compassion for yourself. After all, are your parents perfect? Do they need compassion? If yes, the next question is: how much do you need? A tablespoon or a bucket of compassion?

Now, people who are perfectionists tend to be harder on themselves than they should be. If you are a perfectionist you need to take heed and learn to allow yourself to be less than perfect. Many perfectionists avoid doing things unless they know they are good at them. This limits their ability to learn and experience new things in life.

In order to build self-confidence you need to be strong in your beliefs and not listen to criticism. This is often very hard to do. After someone has criticized you harshly its hard not to replay the harsh words over and over in our heads. You can listen to the criticism, take it in, but then not let it affect you. This requires some practice, as you have become programmed over the years to respond to criticism. This is called learning the skill of ininsultability, which involves listening to a criticism, learn from it, take only the good from it and move on.

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